Archive for Personal Growth
By Kathleen Hawkins, President
One of our members said to me the other day…. “I bet you can spot a WOAMTEC woman a mile away! You know how they walk, how they talk, and what they look like!”
I thought to myself, sure…I meet women all the time and say, “She needs to be a WOAMTEC woman! She has the epitome of sass and class! Someone who you just want to know!” BUT… the next reflection I had was the number of members I can spot now, that I couldn’t spot a week, a month, a year ago. The number of members who have grown personally from being around other professional “Sassy/Classy WOAMTEC” women.
Think about the women who wants to be a bundle of sass and class………….Perhaps, they are on the inside, but are a completely frazzled, overworked, stressed, and a mess on the outside. Do you see them the same way? Do they even see themselves that way? Is it holding them back from reaching their goals?
I recall a conversation I had with my brother shortly before WOAMTEC and after 2 adoptions. I said “I can now see how Mom’s let themselves go.” His head swung around like I was speaking crazy talk and he exclaimed, “WHAT? That is ridiculous!”
I replied, “Well I can’t wear black any more cause of spit up, I can’t wear clothes needing dry cleaned because I have to change them 3 times a day, I can’t wear big earrings because they might rip them out of my ears, I can’t get my nails done because I might scratch them, I traded in my designer purse for a diaper bag, and I can’t wear heels because I might lose my balance carrying a baby carrier, a baby bag, and holding a 3 year old’s hand. I don’t have time to eat, sleep, or do my hair, so I have roots, dark circles, and I would eat anything, salad or not, just to move on to task number two!”
Now, not that I regret any of that….I would do it all again tomorrow. (Not really, Tia so don’t call saying you have another child you want us to adopt please! I have learned NO is a complete sentence.) What it taught me was the importance of not loosing who you are because of someone else in your life. How many women have given up “me time” completely, because they are spinning too many plates in life? How many women give up who they are or who they want to be because of what their husband wants, what their parent says they should be, or what they feel they are worth being.
What are you worth? Do you deserve any less than the best? NO! Is someone in your life making you feel like you should be less then you should be? If so….
- Realize you are Beautiful,
- You are destined for Greatness,
- and taking time out for yourself doesn’t make you a selfish MOM, WIFE, SISTER, or FRIEND it makes you a better one!
You will teach those you love the value of making “Me” a priority and you will be happier, healthier, sassier and classier because of it. That will just make them love you more!
So the next time you see a “Not so Obvious” WOAMTEC woman, stop….invite her to lunch and help bring out her inner beauty!
By Kathleen Hawkins, Proud WOAMTEC President
Ever wonder why some restaurants succeed and some fail?
I do often…but it is no different than the Photography industry that I have spent so much time in. You can be a fabulous portrait artist and struggle to pay bills or eat. Likewise, you can be brilliant at business and teach an $8.00 an hour employee how to click a button and make a profit in the photographic industry. See, it is not as much about the craft, food or product you are selling; it is more about the experience the clients are receiving.
Recently, I was at the Ale House Restaurant in Altamonte Springs ordering take out for my family.
They have this thing where they ask you your name and then see how many times they can use it. How nice it is to here your name! We went from strangers to instant friends, only because she referred to me by name.
I felt comfortable enough to say, “you know I tried to place the order on the phone and was put on hold for more than 5 minutes, so now I am here.” She apologizes, said it was a new phone system and immediately told the manager. He offered me a glass of wine while I was waiting and apologized profusely! Now, I looked horrible, spent the day cleaning, and he didn’t know me at all, but they treated me like I was a “SOMEBODY.”
It truly is the little things that make a difference. The simple touches. The nice gestures that make you feel important or appreciated for your business. Those are the things that keep you coming back again and again.
As I sipped my complimentary glass of Chardonnay, I recalled one of our past experiences with one of our other WOAMTEC venues and began typing this blog on my blackberry. We brought them consistent business 30-40 women every other week for over a year at $20 a pop! After a meeting, we were celebrating because we just got a 2 page feature article promoting our chapter in a local magazine and they took pictures of our women in front of the restaurant sign.
I jokingly said to the general manager…”We are getting you free publicity…you should bring us a celebration drink!” There were only 4 of us celebrating, what a great day it had been for the women of WOAMTEC. The general manager responded, “Oh we can’t do that. We can’t give anything away with out the owners permission.”
That response shocked me so much, because I was half joking, but he definitely was not making me feel like a “SOMEBODY.” So I responded, “Well it sounds like you need to go call the owner. ” He didn’t and we felt so deflated. He left us feeling so discouraged, we changed venues that week. We also cropped the photo removing the restaurants sign because we were at a new location.
Why would one restaurant see value in someone ordering take out and another not see value right in front of them. Isn’t your restaurant name in print in 30,000 magazines worth 4 glasses of Chardonnay? My guess is Ale House would think so!
Remember, always choose your battles with your customers and never forget that everyone deserves to be treated like a “SOMEBODY.”
The bottom line… if you are seeing life as the glass is half empty- fill it up!
It could cost you your customer!
WOAMTEC President Kathleen Hawkins
As my kids get back in school today, I smile at them with pride, joy, and love. I love my babies with all my heart, but as a multi tasking Mom I must admit….I was ready for school to start again.
My middle baby Rachel starts kindergarten today! I can’t believe it has been 5 years already, since we adopted her. It feels like it was yesterday. I was so proud to see her big sis Mothering her as she showed her around her new school and prayed that she would be o.k. and the fear I saw in her big brown eyes would soon disappear. As I think about all of them being in school today, how proud I am of them, how much I love them and how blessed to be there Mother….I thank God for my unanswered prayers.
For years, I struggled with infertility and I prayed every night, I would get pregnant. Hundreds of dollars on pregnancy tests, fertility treatments, countless tears and years of disappointment. My prayers were never answered. I felt pain, anger, and disappointment. I resented pregnant women, I was mad at the world and no matter how hard a tried nothing would fill that void I had. Have you ever felt that way? Wanting something so bad and being angry because you aren’t getting it. Have you ever tried to fight against the current instead of going with the flow. Trying to make something happen in your life?
Do you have unanswered prayers and wonder why? If so, don’t give up…your story is still being told. Like the song goes…”I thank God for my unanswered prayers!” Having children the way I thought I was suppose to conceive was not my destiny. My life is not as I imagined…BUT I could never have imagined my life could be this awesome! Adoption was not my plan, it was my destiny. When you walk with purpose and know there is a bigger plan, life can be so much greater than we could ever dream!
If it wasn’t for my unanswered prayers, I would not have these 3 beautiful children, My Mother would not be living here, I would not have started WOAMTEC, and I would not be sharing this now with you. So if you have been praying for something that is going unanswered. Look at my family and have hope and know all in good time. There is a plan for you too! It may not be what you imagined it would be….but it might just be a whole lot better~
Saturday, I watched my husband cut back our bushes, I questioned why he trimmed them back, so far. He said they were too big and needed to be trimmed. Being allergic to everything that grows, I have never had much of a green thumb, so didn’t understand the concept. All I knew was to me, it looked prettier when it was full and green then when it was trimmed back and all you could see was brown sticks and branches. I questioned him again, but he proceeded convincing me he knew what he was doing. I chose that battle and walked away. Read More→
Karyn Williams is the co-founder of WOAMTEC’s Courage to Dream Foundation, an organization that came to life because of the lyrics to one of her songs. The CTD Foundation is a group of women who are committed to offering hope through practical opportunities, and a chance for young women to get their feet under them as they build their lives on “The Rock”.
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The Confident Women’s Conference is fast approaching. This article will help you get the best ROI for this event and other business/networking seminars you attend this year.
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(Ocala, FL)—-The Ocala, Florida chapter of Women on a Mission to Earn Commission (WOAMTEC), has teamed with Miss Ocala/Marion County 2010 Kelly Redoutey
to collect used jeans for Pageant Pants. Pageant Pants is an initiative of Helping Other People Eat (HOPE), founded by Miss Florida 2006 Allison Kreiger Walsh in 2001 to educate and empower people with eating disorders.
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Women on a Mission to Earn Commission (WOAMTEC), a networking organization geared towards women, is pleased to announce “Thrive Don’t Just Survive,” it is the 6th conference for Orlando-area members, to be held on Thursday, June 17 at the Rosen Plaza Hotel on International Drive.
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WOAMTEC), a networking organization geared towards women, is pleased to announce the launch of a new Braselton chapter at The Chateau Elan 100 Tour de France in Braselton, Ga. on Thursday, May 20 at 11:30 a.m. Victoria Lance will serve as chapter director.
Contact Victoria at 678.318.5000, Victoria@hartwell-lance.com
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WOAMTEC, a networking organization geared towards women, is pleased to announce “Thrive Don’t Just Survive,” its first conference for Atlanta-area members, to be held on Tuesday, June 22 at the Hilton Suites Atlanta Perimeter. Read More→